Dear Man

I hope you had a wonderful Valentine’s Day yesterday. If you were disappointed for whatever reasons, I am very sorry that you were.

I don’t think we talk about the woman who stayed home and was expecting some romantic time with you. I know she is a little older than me and probably not as exciting, though I know every women long for love even if they say they don’t care.

I wonder what you gave her yesterday. Flowers? Chocolates? Card? A Kiss? Or, just a “honey, Happy Valentine’s Day”?  I am sure whatever you did, she would be thrilled.

You, like some other men I know, have decided to spend the night with your lover. I wasn’t sure how you managed to tell your wife you can’t celebrate the day with her. I guess you can always say you have a really busy schedule, because she is used to it and wouldn’t challenge you at all.

Or perhaps you have wowed her and she was so satisfied with your declaration of love in the first place, she didn’t need to keep you there to be confident.

I know I would be really upset if I couldn’t celebrate Valentine’s Day with the one I love.

Valentine’s Day was a day that you declare your love. Your unconditional love. Your marriage, in this Anglo-Saxon world, is about your promise to love her unconditionally for the rest of your life. Or til death do you apart.

I do want to know what was going through your mind when you declared your love to your lover. You too love her unconditionally? And you want her to declare her unconditional love to you and you only?

Karma exist in every aspect of life. Including love. When you declared your love to your lover, you’ve split yourself to two, one for the mother of your children, and the other one who may be after something from you. The mother of your children shared her love with one and the only man – you. The lover, however, maybe sharing her love with more than one man.

You can blame the system – why can’t you have more than one lover? I too would blame the system. Why is it acceptable for a man to have more than one lover but not the woman?

I hope this letter finds you well. Enjoy wearing the rose colour glasses. I hope karma never finds you.

Lots of Love

Your Lover