My story about Dragon Baby has gone to a completely different direction than what was intended in the first place. What happened, happened. My friend suggested that I placed a notice of clarification, and this will also be the last time I will talk about this story.
1. Having a baby:
I have dreamed about having a baby for more than 6 months. I have expressed this on my Facebook. It is due to my age – being a 30-year-old single woman; I am increasingly worried about missing my chances of having a child of my own. It is selfish for sure, however, I know children born to older women suffer more health problems. It would cost the child more in the future.
Must I have a child now? No. I do, however, want to have a child before I turn 35.
2. Single women having children:
It’s not unusual. Both UK and NZ reported single women wanting children, many of them related to their age. It is not uncommon for single women in their late 20s and early 30s because biological clock is one you cannot control. Women only have so many years before they can have a child.
3. Story in the Herald:
I have agreed to help my friend, Lincoln Tan, to do a story about Dragon Baby because it is an interesting angle for many non-Chinese or non-Asians. As I have previously written, I don’t think Kiwis understand and are ready for the impact of Dragon Babies in Asia and in New Zealand.
4. Sperm Donor:
Saying that I accept the idea of sperm donor does not equal to accepting random offers from random people. By telling people that I want a child does not mean I am publically asking for offers. Should one want sperm donor, one can seek help from a fertility clinic. I have no intention of using one at the moment.
5. Publicity stunt:
I am not promoting anything and not getting paid for this story, and it is not a publicity stunt. As a matter of fact, I need to subject myself to nasty, hatred comments. I have decided to let the comments come public because I respect you’re your view even if it is different.
I am a 30-year-old woman looking for love since 2008. I have thought about having a baby, and I think it is okay for women to have a child before they are married. There is nothing wrong for a single woman to think about having a child or want a child. I am not looking for random men to have sex with to get impregnate. I don’t think anyone can make assumptions on others just based on one article.
I am passionate and spend a lot of my time bridging the gap between Asia and New Zealand through better understanding. That for me is far more important than having a baby in the Year of Dragon.
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