I had a brilliant dinner with my friends last night including the beautiful Miss Erotica 2011 Audrey Tan, the first Asian who won this title.

We were talking about how in New Zealand it is completely acceptable to be a stripper, a dancer, a Miss Erotica, and in other countries, particularly in Asia, this could be too shocking and completely not acceptable.

I have always been very liberal about sex and sexuality. Being liberal about sex and sexuality does not mean sleeping around. Being liberal means you are open to the view on sex and sexuality.

I remembered the first burlesque show I did in 2010 for my friend’s 50th birthday. No idea what made me think it was an awesome idea and what made me brave enough to accept the invitation to do. The experience was a head rush for me. It was meant to be a private function but strangers were walking in and out of bar. And bartenders who became super friendly.

The adrenaline rush is amazing. The confidence you get is amazing. The attention is certainly amazing.

It takes a very confident person to be dancing around semi-naked.

I wouldn’t call myself a feminist, though I share views of this “Third-Wave feminism“. Sex and sexuality should be celebrated, and I hold the strong beliefs that if women chooses to flaunt it, they should be celebrated and supported, not being attacked by fellow women.

Sex, sexuality and even pornography is unique to humans. i remember the lecture notes on the Human Sexuality class I did at Uni very well. Humans are one of the very few species that can have sex for purely recreational and bonding reasons, and not procreation reasons. Humans have also had the abilities to have variations with their sex positions, through taken advantages of our bipedalism. homosexuality, regardless of whether it is nature or nurture, involves sex and sexuality. And yet this could have little biological advantages to the species.

Certainly oral sex have very little biological advantages. (Irrespective on ‘research‘ that claims women who perform fellatio and swallow semen regularly may have reduced risk of breast cancer...)

Sex and sexuality is a way to enhance the bonding between two people, and often you will hear that people say that their relationship is breaking down because their sex life is not working. You read articles in women magazines on how to make love with their men.

Putting stereotypical labels on women in the adult entertainment industry or women who “have it flaunt it” is sad. It is that old Victorian idea that women are too sexy and would cause arousal and you need to cover yourself up. Blame the women for being gorgeous huh?

If men can’t control themselves because it is natural for men to be an animal and think about sex every 10 seconds or something, shouldn’t they be the one under control, perhaps?

I am a lady who enjoy having quality amazing sex with the one I love. And I am proud of it.