My section for the documentary “Both Worlds” finally comes to an end. I am finally wrapping up my part of my story, even though I feel a little sluggish and upbeat today to complete it.
As some would know, Both Worlds is a documentary on 1.5/2nd Generation New Zealanders, and how they live their lives here in NZ. And some would also know, my part is about my journey looking for love; as a 1.5er, I believe it is hard to find someone who understands what it means to be a 1.5er. And what it means when it comes to looking for love.
I have had assumptions about what Chinese and non-Chinese may think about relationships. Assumed that Chinese maybe more traditional, that they want their partner in a certain way, and I would never fit in.
When I spoke to my friend, he actually told me I was wrong. No – not all traditional Chinese men wants their wives to stay home and cook. As a matter of fact, women’s rights in China is way higher than here in New Zealand.
And in New Zealand, we know how women needs to fight for their rights.
My assumptions on the Dragon Baby saga was equally wrong, and I thought the Chinese will be negative, having a child before marriage?
The feedback on the English platforms were generally negative. In Chinese’s Weibo, they were generally positive and even supportive.
I am still not sure why, but I remember my mom reminded me that her friend’s mother told her daughter to have child when they were still in a de facto relationship, because they now remained childless and their relationship ended.
Over the last few weeks, I am proving myself wrong again and again. I have been making inappropriate assumptions about Chinese and New Zealanders. That perhaps Chinese are more conservatives and New Zealanders are not.
I am glad I am proving myself wrong. This allows me to learn to find out more an talk to someone before I make any judgements.