Hi, my name is Bevan, a 30 years old single woman born in Hong Kong and have lived here in Auckland, Aotearoa for the last 15 years. I am on a quest for a Dragon Baby. What’s a Dragon Baby? 2012 marks the Year of Dragon, one of the most auspicious years for Chinese worldwide. A baby boom is expected; hospitals, doctors and midwives were booked more than a year ago.
My quest for a Dragon Baby is partly aged related. Globally (see The Guardian and NZ Herald), it is not uncommon for single women to seek help from fertility clinics. Late 20s and early 30s single women are finding their biological clock ticking, but finding an eligible man is getting ever so difficult.
Since the article published in New Zealand Herald on 14 January, I have had further ‘national advertisement’ for my quest for a Dragon Baby. As one would expect, I did get a lot of emails, Facebook messages, tweets, you name it. Some are kind and wanted to “get to know me”, some wanted me to pick them for a “good time”, and some wanted to send me their sperm. There are a few couples who wanted me to help them as surrogate mother.
There were also comments made online, via Facebook about my quest for a Dragon Baby. Friend of friend who doesn’t know me started slamming me about my selfishness and how it is unhealthy. THIS IS WHY I WANTED TO HAVE A BABY WITH A FATHERLY FIGURE. I also saw comments where people think I am going to sleep with any random guys on the street, or worse, think I wanted residency in New Zealand. HAVING A BABY WITH NZ CITIZENSHIP DOES NOT GUARANTEE THE MOTHER WITH NZ RESIDENCY!
I am definitely interested in getting pregnant in the next couple of years, but I am not interested in looking for random sex with random guys. My sex life is very healthy and rather amazing. What I am lacking is a baby daddy to fulfill my maternal needs.
Hi Bevan, firstly, Gong Xi Fa Cai! I read your story on Stuff, and I just want to express my support. I understand where you’re coming from with your decision, and I know that not everyone would understand it. I hope you find the suitable donor and wishing you all the best.
- Fi
Thanks Fiona! Gong xi fa cai!
Hi Bevan, I am just writing quickly to wish you good luck with your quest! I am a solo father with a half Kiwi and half Korean daughter. She is everything to me.
I really hope you find what you are looking for!
Stay positive
If you want to have a baby for your own good reason, stop using dragon baby as the highlight. Because of you going public, some of the Asians reputation have been scarred.